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Dead Soul Friendships

DOES YOUR FRIENDSHIP HAVE A SOUL?

What does being in a “dead soul friendship” feel like? Who wins? Who loses? Why are we even in it? And how easy is it to walk away? Friendships go through cycles, seasons, but sometimes it’s time to face the music can’t give CPR to a cadaver.  

The least we can do is own up to what it is and what it’s not…

“Dead Soul Friendship”

Our friendship has no soul.

It resembles the skeleton model in my 8th grade anatomy class

Bones dolefully dangling on rollers

Being lifelessly pushed around by disinterested pushers

 

It’s like excessively watering a fake plant

Attending a wedding just for the food

And training for a marathon no one shows up to

 

Our friendship feels like a mundane chore

An obligatory load of laundry

An endlessly dirty sink

And bed sheets with perpetual stains

 

Our friendship is like a game of Scrabble

Having to arrange all the letters in the right place

Before formulating a conversation

 

Our friendship is like a game of Monopoly

Taking out emotional loans never to be paid back

And only gaining relevance through transactions

 

Our friendship is no friendship at all.

It’s a lose-lose game.

I lose.

You lose.

 

The truth is…

I waited naively by the door.

But your soul never ever came.

DROP MAMA A COMMENT! 

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship that has no foundation? No legs? No purpose…where it exists just to exist? How did you handle it? And was it worth your time?